Parenting teenagers requires a special kind of stamina. Just when you think you've mastered parenting, your child transforms into someone who needs you differently—sometimes more intensely, sometimes more distantly, and often both within the same day. Here’s how to keep your energy reserves topped up for this important journey.Prioritise Your Sleep (Yes, Yours!)We often emphasise the importance of sleep for our teens, but how frequently do we take our own advice? Poor sleep affects your decision-making, emotional resilience, and patience—qualities you most need when parenting teenagers.Create a calming wind-down routine similar to what you’d recommend for your teen. Put devices away at least an hour before bed, maintain a consistent sleep schedule, and ensure your sleeping environment is relaxing. Remember, modelling good sleep habits is one of your most powerful parenting tools.Challenge Your Parenting Thinking TrapsYour energy can often be drained not by your teenager's actions, but by your own thoughts about those actions. Watch out for these common thinking traps:Catastrophising: "If they fail this class, they'll never succeed in life!"Mind-reading: "They haven't replied to my message; they must be hiding something."All-or-nothing thinking: "I'm a complete failure as a parent."When these thoughts arise, pause and reflect: "Is this thought helpful or draining? How else could I interpret this situation?"Set Boundaries That Benefit EveryoneBoundaries aren’t just beneficial for teenagers—they’re essential for parents too. Identify areas where you're overextending yourself, and practice assertive yet compassionate statements such as:"Let me think about it, and I'll get back to you shortly.""I'm busy right now, but I can talk later this evening.""I can see you're upset, but I need respectful communication to continue this conversation."Every boundary you set helps teach your teen about respect and self-care, while also preserving your energy.Build Meaningful Moments of ConnectionOften, what recharges us most isn’t less interaction, but deeper, meaningful connection. Discover activities that genuinely replenish both you and your teen, like hiking, cooking together, or even a peaceful drive. These interactions build emotional reserves, helping ease the challenges of tougher moments.Remember It's a Marathon, Not a SprintParenting teenagers is a long-haul journey. Like any endurance event, pacing yourself is key. Schedule regular, guilt-free breaks for self-care. Remember, your effectiveness as a parent is not measured by constant availability, but by your sustainable presence.These teenage years, despite their challenges, offer incredible opportunities for growth and deeper connections. Taking care of your energy isn't selfish—it's essential. You're ensuring you'll be fully present for every step of this journey.Parent | Whānau Support Group – Free Group Coaching for Parents – Begins 8 May 2025 with Ali.