Spring is in the air, and September 2025 saw continued strength in Wānaka’s property market, with both residential homes and sections showing solid activity across the region. A total of 62 properties were sold, comprising 44 houses and 18 sections, generating over $91.5 million in total sales value.Residential SalesThe median sale price for houses in Wānaka hit $1,400,000, which is a reflection of the area's enduring appeal and premium lifestyle offering. The highest residential sale reached $6,350,000, while the lowest was $440,000. This diversity reflects the unique charm of our town, showing there’s still room for first-home buyers and savvy investors.Albert Town and Lake Hāwea/Hāwea Flat also saw notable activity, with median house prices of $1,290,000 and $1,170,000 respectively – offering lifestyle and value just minutes from central Wānaka. Section SalesSections remained a strong segment, with a median price of $595,000. Albert Town and Lake Hāwea/Hāwea Flat offered more affordable options, with median prices of $567,500 and $459,500 respectively.Market TrendsThe median days to sell was 79, with some properties selling in under a week, while others took a bit longer. This suggests a mixed market, where well-priced and well-presented homes move quickly, while others may require more time or negotiation.Overall, Wānaka’s property market remains vibrant and full of opportunity, with strong buyer interest and a diverse range of sales.If you're curious about what these numbers mean for your property goals, feel free to reach out for a chat. Wānaka is a special place, and navigating its real estate landscape is easier with a local expert by your side.Until next time, take care and enjoy the beauty of Wānaka!RogerTel: 027 222 2092email: [email protected]

In the first part of our conversation, Ali McCormick unpacked why traditional parenting advice often falls short and how real change happens when parents feel supported, not judged.In Part Two, we go deeper.Ali shares powerful “aha” moments from past sessions, explores how she creates a judgement-free space, and explains the ripple effect small shifts can have not just in our homes, but across our whole community.Let’s dive back in.Q: Can you share a memorable “aha” moment from a past session?Ali: In our very first group, the magic was in just hearing other people’s stories. Parents felt relief just being able to talk openly.And when I’d reflect something back to them like, “Did you hear what you just said? That’s amazing parenting right there”, they’d light up. Because we all have a negativity bias, and parents often miss the incredible things they’re already doing.One time I asked, “When’s the last time you had fun with your kids?”At first, they froze, no one could answer. Then they smiled and suddenly the stories came out. That’s what we’re alive for – those moments.Q: What makes this group different from a typical parenting course or seminar?Ali: I’ve run loads of training courses, and I’ve realised information alone doesn’t create change. I kept hearing the same thing: “I’ve done all the courses, and nothing’s changed.” Information is important, but it’s not enough.What makes this group different is the real-time, reflective coaching.This group is small, personal, and interactive. We go deeper. We figure out how to apply the ideas. That’s what makes the differenceQ: If a parent did just one thing differently this week, what would you suggest?Ali: Count to five. Take a deep breath. Ask yourself a curious question.That’s three things, I’m greedy! But honestly, that moment of pause can completely change how you respond.Q: What do you love most about working with parents in this way? What keeps bringing you back to this work?Ali: I love working with people. I love meaningful conversations. I do a lot of planning and curriculum development, but where the rubber hits the road is when I take that work into the room with real people. I love watching those small shifts ripple outward, when a parent becomes more aware, more present, more connected.They talk to their child differently. That child feels safer. Then they talk to their friends differently. That’s how change spreads.You don’t need massive transformation. You just need a nudge in the right direction, a bit of belief that it’s possible, and that builds momentum. That’s how change happens.I just think human beings are awesome. (As are plants and animals, of course, I wouldn’t want to be unfair!)The Path Wānaka Whānau Support Group — Term 4 Sessions Begin Thursday 6th NovemberLed by Ali McCormick, this is a free group coaching programme designed to support parents and caregivers through the challenges of raising teens.It’s real, practical, warm, and entirely judgement-free.Small, confidential group sessionsIn-person and online sessionsGrounded in neuroscience, coaching and positive psychology100% free to attendLearn more and register here.Got questions? Reach out to us here.Final word?You’ve got this. But you don’t have to do it alone.Join us and let’s grow through this together.

Parenting teens can feel like navigating a minefield even on your best day. That’s why Path Wānaka’s Whānau Support Group is designed a little differently. It’s not a lecture or a textbook course. It’s a space for real conversations, real coaching, and real change.At the heart of it all is Ali McCormick, an experienced coach, educator and parenting ally who knows that presence beats perfection every time.We sat down with Ali to talk about what makes this group different, why information alone isn’t enough, and the surprising power of just one deep breath.Q: Why did you start facilitating the Whānau Support Group?Ali: Sally [from Path Wānaka] was talking about running parenting training events, and I said “the research is really clear: training doesn’t land unless it’s followed up.”Courses are great for information, but they don’t always lead to change. Parents need coaching, someone to help them figure out how to apply that information in the messy reality of everyday life.That’s what we’ve seen in this group. One parent texted mid-crisis and we jumped on a quick call. Five minutes later, they had a plan and were back in the game. That’s the kind of support that makes a real difference.Q: What do you see as the biggest gap in support for parents?Ali: It’s the application piece. Knowing about parenting strategies isn’t the same as knowing how to use them when emotions are running high.To bridge that gap, parents need someone to help them reflect, break things down, and adapt tools to their unique family. That’s what coaching does.And, because I’ve worked for over 30 years in education, child development, and leadership, I can bring a lot of depth to those conversations, with zero judgment.Q: What’s the most common challenge parents bring to the group?Ali: Every parent has different challenges, but underneath them all is this one biggie:Managing their own emotions in the moment, so they can respond rather than react.That’s what really makes the difference. When parents can regulate themselves, they unlock access to all the other skills. And, it’s something we can all get better at, it just takes support and practice.I remember one session focused on having fun again. Because when kids are little, parenting is fun plus management. But as they get older, fear replaces fun.A few weeks after that session, a parent said, “I’ve been having so much fun with my teen again.” And I reminded her, “Remember our conversation?” That shift was intentional and it stuck.Q: You talk a lot about ‘presence over perfection.’ Why does that idea matter so much?Ali: Because the only way to build skill is to show up and practice.Show up, try, fail, adjust, then show up again. That’s how we grow in anything. Parenting is no exception.Failure isn’t the opposite of success it’s part of the road to it. Learn to fail, or fail to learn.Q: What would you say to a parent who feels too overwhelmed to join a group like this?Ali: “Let’s have a quick chat.”People often think coaching means being told what to do, but coaching is not telling, it’s asking. When fear is in the room: fear of judgment, fear of failure, it’s easy to shut down. Once that connection is made, the fear starts to melt away. You don’t have to come with answers. You just have to show up.Q: And what if someone’s worried they’ll be the only one struggling?Ali: Everyone is struggling. Show me a parent who hasn’t had a hard moment in their week, and I’ll be surprised. This is life. What’s powerful is realising you’re not alone, and that talking to others brings huge relief.Watch out for Part Two next week.The Path Wānaka Whānau Support Group — Term 4 Sessions Begin Thursday 6th NovemberLed by Ali McCormick, this is a free group coaching programme designed to support parents and caregivers through the challenges of raising teens.It’s real, practical, warm, and entirely judgement-free.Small, confidential group sessionsIn-person and online sessionsGrounded in neuroscience, coaching and positive psychology100% free to attendLearn more and register here.Got questions? Reach out to us here:.Final word?You’ve got this. But you don’t have to do it alone.Join us and let’s grow through this together.

New report warns Queenstown Lakes faces unprecedented food demand – but presents a pivotal opportunity to rebuild a home-grown food economy. A Wake-Up Call for Queenstown Lakes Queenstown Lakes will need at least double – and possibly triple – its current food supply by the mid-2050s, according to a major new Food Resilience Report released this week by Wao Aotearoa and the Southern Lakes Kai Collective (SLKC). The report is the most comprehensive food study ever undertaken in the region, mapping what we eat, how it arrives, and where our vulnerabilities lie. “This report should be a wake-up call,” says Babu Blat, who coordinates the Southern Lakes Kai Collective. “We currently truck or fly in 95% of the food we consume, and the six supermarkets in our district carry less than a week’s worth of stock. In the event of a major weather event or an Alpine Fault earthquake, our shelves could be bare in days. That’s how exposed we are.” The Numbers That Can’t Be Ignored In 2023, the district required 34,748 tonnes of food per year – with 95% imported.By the mid-2050s, demand will reach 63,000–95,000 tonnes per year. Households send an average of 3.71 kg of food waste to landfill every week, totalling 122 tonnes weekly. One-third of kerbside bins surveyed contained edible food. Visitors spent $860 million on food and beverage services in the year to March 2024.By the mid-2030s, peak-day population in Queenstown Lakes may exceed Dunedin’s resident population. From Analysis to Action The report doesn’t just highlight problems – it lays out solutions. The Southern Lakes Kai Collective (SLKC) was formed in 2024, following a district-wide hui of growers, mana whenua, hospitality leaders, social agencies, and council. Its mission: to design and facilitate the delivery of a roadmap for food resilience. “The Collective acts as both a think-tank and a project kickstarter,” says Blatt. “Our first three moves are clear: invest in education so people understand the true value of a resilient local food system, back our growers through the ‘Grow the Grower’ programme that not only supports existing producers but also helps new growers get started for local production, and push for policy that strengthens our food system for the long term. Together, these create the foundation for a food-secure, resilient future.” ‘Grow the Grower’ is a key initiative which includes developing skills, apprenticeships, and access to land while ensuring local producers have the processing facilities they need to stay viable. “Right now, a lot of our local protein is shipped away because we don’t have small-scale processing here. A local hub would unlock huge potential,” Blatt explains. Turning Waste into Resource With 122 tonnes of food going to landfill every week, waste is both a challenge and an opportunity. “The fastest way to cut that number is through surplus capture and redistribution,” says Blatt. “We need to get edible food into people’s homes rather than bins. Education is part of it, but so is infrastructure – systems that make redistribution easy, not a burden.” What Households, Councils, and Businesses Can Do The report stresses that everyone has a role to play. Households: Start small by reducing food waste at home – plan meals, store food properly, and use leftovers. If you can, grow a bit of your own kai, even just herbs or salad greens.Councils & Businesses: Support redistribution systems, invest in local growers, and shape policy that prioritises resilience. “This is not just about growing carrots in your backyard. It’s about creating a food system that is fair, local, and resilient – and that requires both individual behaviour change and institutional investment,” says Blatt. The report’s release marks the shift from analysis to action, and that action will be front-and-centre at Food Resilience Day at the Wao Summit on 31 October. Attendees can expect: Practical tours of local businesses and projects in action. Kōrero with growers and experts. Opportunities to plug in – whether as a volunteer, landholder, funder, or advocates of the roadmap. “This is the moment to get involved,” says Blatt. “We have a chance to strengthen our local food system before major disruptions strike. By acting now, we ensure our community can feed itself, come what may.” The full Food Resilience Report is available now at wao.co.nz. Media, policymakers, businesses, and community members are urged to read the report and attend Food Resilience Day at the Wao Summit on 31 October. Release by Arna Craig - Co-Founder Wao Aotearoa Further Comments - Babu Blatt - SLKC CO-Ordinator: [email protected] / 021 0287 0320

What Parents Took Away from the NightLast Thursday, more than 200 parents, caregivers and teachers filled the Lake Wānaka Centre to hear Rob Cope share the hard truths about keeping our kids safe online.The impact was evident. Parents left with practical strategies, renewed determination, and the relief of knowing they’re not facing this challenge alone.Staying Alert & Setting Boundaries“Not to slack off ever — to be on guard always.”Rob didn’t sugarcoat it: “... what used to happen to 13-year-olds is now happening to 7-year-olds. Devices are being handed to kids younger and younger, and without filters or boundaries in place, it’s not a question of if they’ll be exposed to harmful content, but when”.From free gaming apps with embedded porn pop-ups to late-night scroll sessions, the risks are real, and they’re happening in our homes.Rob spoke about delaying devices for as long as possible, keeping them in shared family spaces, and locking gaming down to friends-only. And if that means being “the bad guy” for a while? So be it. Rob reminded us: “I don’t care what the kids accept. We’re the parents.”Practical Tools & ProtectionsRob described today’s tech as “super stimulants” — dopamine-driven, deliberately addictive, and impossible to compete with in real life.“Real life becomes grey when a device is constantly lighting up your brain.”Parents left being advised to install stronger filters, revisit screen time rules, and remove devices from bedrooms and bathrooms altogether. It’s not just about limits. It’s about creating space for better things.Connection Over Control“Connection trumps every time.”A recurring theme on the night was the need to reconnect with our children. No tech filter can replace an open conversation, or a culture at home where trust and values shape how devices are used.Rob stressed the importance of eating dinner together, device-free - and reminded us that “zombie town” starts with parents too. If we’re always on our phones, we’re modelling the very thing we’re trying to prevent. Boredom, as one parent noted, is actually good. It fosters creativity, curiosity, and real-world engagement - all things our kids are quietly craving.The Bigger Picture“This isn’t just about your child”.Porn, gambling apps, blue-light sleep disruption, in-game grooming - it’s all happening here, right now, everywhere. Exhausted kids are turning up to school unable to concentrate. Employers are reporting young adults unable to stay focused for longer than a TikTok. We’re raising a generation of children who are overstimulated, under-connected, and missing out on the best parts of growing up.But it’s not too late. As Rob put it: “This is the culture we’ve created. But we can change it.”Rob Cope’s Top Tips for the School HolidaysSimple, strong steps every parent can take to protect their kids onlineNo Devices in Bedrooms… Ever! Make this a non-negotiable. Phones, tablets, gaming consoles - they don’t belong where kids sleep. “A lot of parents say, ‘My kid can’t sleep without their tablet.’ That’s just the culture you’ve created.”Install Filters on Every Device: All devices, including phones and home Wi-Fi, must be filtered. No child should have unfiltered internet access - not even for a second. “If your child has a device without a filter, it’s only a matter of time before they discover porn - it’s not if, it’s when.”No More Zombie Town: Start reclaiming back family life. Sit at the dinner table. Talk - Laugh - Be bored together. “We don’t sit at the table anymore. Life’s become a chaotic mess. We need to bring the family back.”Connection Beats Control - Talk to your kids about everything. Explain boundaries, don’t just enforce them. But don’t be afraid to draw the line when needed. “Sometimes you’ve just had enough. That’s OK. Say: ‘this is what’s happening. Stop it. End of story.”Be the Parent — Not the Best Mate: Lead. Guide. Protect. That’s your role. “I don’t care what the kids accept. Who gives a sh*t what the kids think? I’m their parent, not their mate.”Half an Hour a Day is Plenty: Rob recommends a maximum of 30 minutes screen time per day. Kids will push back, especially if they’re used to hours. But the shift is worth it. “We removed the TV for one week. My 14-year-old son read a 550-page book. My stepdaughter wrote four chapters of her own.”Model It Yourself: Kids copy what they see. If you’re glued to your phone, don’t be surprised when they are too. “We created this. We allowed it. If you’re addicted to your own device, you won’t be able to stop your kids.”Don’t Normalise Porn Access Talk to your sons. Step in early. “A lot of dads think today’s porn is like Playboy. It’s not. It’s violent, degrading, and addictive.”Don’t Confuse Discipline with Meanness: Boundaries show love. Lack of boundaries is what’s actually harmful. “Discipline doesn’t equal being mean. Not disciplining your kids? That’s what’s mean.” Advocate for Systemic Change: Rob wants the government to mandate filtering for all under-18s — and believes it’s entirely possible. But the first place to change starts is at home. “Just because the horse has bolted doesn’t mean we don’t go get it back.”Final Word from Rob:“Our kids are drowning. We’ve got to up our game.”Parents take the time these holidays - Educate yourselves!Watch Our Kids Online (1:29) - now available free on YouTubeWatch ‘The Social Dilemma’ (1:34) - available on NetflixAs Rob says, “When I protect my kids online, I also protect yours, so please protect your kids online so that you are also protecting mine.”So let’s stay curious, connected, and courageous — together we’ve got this.Happy & safe holidays Wānaka Whānau!Acknowledgment:With support from Te Kura o Tititea Mount Aspiring College, Kahu Youth Trust, Community Link, & Alps Admin, we extend our grateful thanks to our funders QLDC Community Fund & Central Lakes Trust for enabling Path Wānaka | Ara Ki Wānaka to host “Our Kids Online” this year. 

Wanaka’s property market continues to reflect its reputation as one of New Zealand’s most desirable lifestyle destinations. According to the latest REINZ statistics for August 2025, the local real estate scene is showing signs of both strength and subtle shifts in buyer behaviour.The median sale price for residential properties in Wanaka surged to $1,580,000, marking a 17% increase compared to August 2024. This growth underscores the enduring appeal of the region, driven by its natural beauty, recreational opportunities, and increasing national and international interest.While property prices continue to rise, the median days to sell a home also extended - from 40 days in August 2024 to 87 days in August 2025 - reflecting a more deliberate pace in buyer decision-making. This may be influenced by a broader range of listings and evolving affordability considerations. Sellers remain confident, with the median listing price increasing from $1,250,000 to $1,550,000, underscoring strong belief in the enduring value of property in the current market.Sales volume has remained healthy, with a steady number of transactions across both established homes and sections. The market for vacant land is also active, though data lags due to the timing of new developments being titled.Overall, Wanaka’s property market remains robust, but the extended time to sell hints at a shift toward a more balanced dynamic between buyers and sellers. For those considering entering the market—whether buying or selling—understanding these trends is key to making informed decisions.Stay tuned for more updates as we continue to track Wanaka’s evolving real estate landscape.RogerTel: 027 222 2092email: [email protected] Helwick Street, Wānaka

We all have an inner voice. Sometimes it’s helpful – motivating us through a tough day. Other times, it’s just mean.For teens, that inner critic can get loud. Under pressure, it often turns into a stream of ANTs – Automatic Negative Thoughts – like: “I’m so dumb.” “I can’t do this.” “What’s wrong with me?”It’s frustrating to watch – and even harder to help – when a young person spirals into self-doubt.But here’s the good news: we can coach them to respond with PETs – Performance Enhancing Thoughts. These are realistic, encouraging statements that help build confidence and calm under stress. And the science shows they’re even more powerful when delivered in the third person.Instead of “I’m going to mess this up,” try:→ “You’ve prepared for this, Jack – take a breath and give it a go.”Instead of “I’m so bad at this,” try:→ “You can do hard things, Maia – just keep going.”This technique is called distanced self-talk. It activates the brain’s thinking centre, reduces emotional overwhelm, and improves decision-making under pressure.You can model it too. Say your thoughts out loud sometimes:“C’mon Kim, it’s not that hard, it’s not that deep, just get it done.”The goal isn’t to fake confidence. It’s to talk to yourself (and teach your teen to talk to themselves) the way you’d speak to someone you care about.That small shift helps tame the inner critic – and make room for something more encouraging.For more on how to harness the power of self-talk, check out Ethan Kross’s TED talk Do you talk to yourself? Here's how to harness your inner voice.Kim Tay is the founder of The Wellbeing Works and runs science-based workshops that build mental skills for wellbeing and high performance – at home, at school, and at work. For more bite-sized, no-fluff insights, sign up for her (very occasional, no-spam) newsletter here.Read Kim’s previous posts here. Why Your Teen Might Be Stuck on the Negative – and What Helps! Stuck in a Mood? How to Shift ItKim Tay is the founder of The Wellbeing Works and runs science-based workshops that build mental skills for wellbeing and high performance – at home, at school, and at work. For more bite-sized, no-fluff insights, sign up for her (very occasional, no-spam) newsletter here.

What does it take for a business to survive — and thrive — not just next quarter, but for the next century?That’s the question behind Wao Aotearoa’s Journey to 2125. It’s a big horizon 100 years ahead and it challenges us to stop thinking about business as short-term transactions and start seeing it as a legacy. What kind of companies, communities, and landscapes will we pass on to our mokopuna? This year’s Better Business Day (Wednesday 29 October, Wānaka + Hāwea) is a chance to explore forward-thinking business models that align profit with purpose and build resilience in a changing world. With a focus on long-term value, intergenerational responsibility, and climate-positive action, the day combines practical workshops, expert panels, and networking opportunities designed to equip attendees with the tools to lead sustainably, today and for 2125.The day has been expertly curated to enable direct learning from pioneers in regenerative business, circular economy, and climate strategy, and set up so attendees walk away with ideas that can be implemented immediately. From leadership lessons to financing biodiversity, the sessions offer both inspiration and grounded, real-world insights.Because the truth is simple: doing business better now is the only way we ensure a thriving, equitable Aotearoa for generations to come.​​Leading from the inside outInner strength for outer impactBefore you can change the way you do business, you have to change the way you lead. Hosted by facilitator Nicola King, founder of In Good Nic, this half-day session is about slowing down to lead better. A design thinker with a Masters in Sustainable Business, Nicola brings big ideas to life through accessible, empathetic practice.This half-day workshop blends an early sauna session, breathwork, nervous-system reset, and even a lake dip with hard-earned lessons from Lisa Thompson, a New Zealand business strategist who has driven international growth for Icebreaker.Lisa now leads Wilson & Dorset, a boutique wool design company based in Wānaka, and she’s passionate about embedding empathy, resilience, and emotional intelligence into leadership. Because if you want your company to last until 2125, your culture has to be strong enough to weather every storm.You'll also hear from Dr Rebecca Bloore, local positive psychology and motivation expert with over a decade of psychology research experience, helping individuals thrive in their personal and professional lives. A business lesson from the mountainsNature-Based solutions in business at Cardrona with RealNZSki fields and tourism operators face climate risk head-on. At Cardrona, you’ll step behind the scenes with Ewan Mackie and the RealNZ team to see how an alpine business is actively restoring the environment it depends on, trapping pests, planting trees, and protecting threatened species.It’s a simple truth: if our land and water don’t thrive, neither do our businesses. This on-the-ground tour shows how nature-based solutions can be woven directly into your operations, safeguarding livelihoods for generations to come. Note this session is not included in the day pass.Cutting through the sustainability noiseMaking sense of sustainability with Sydney StraverThe sustainability landscape can feel overwhelming, endless acronyms, frameworks, and reports. Sydney Straver, Managing Director of &BLOOM, will cut through the jargon with the concept of double materiality, helping businesses map not only how they impact the planet, but how climate and social change impact them.This isn’t about box-ticking. It’s about building strategies that hold weight with staff, customers, and investors, strategies that will keep your business relevant all the way to 2125.Financing nature, not greenwashUnderstanding biodiversity credits with Ekos Kāmahi and Sanctuary Mountain MaungatautariCarbon credits have been on the agenda for years, but now biodiversity credits are emerging as a way to finance the protection of native ecosystems.This session brings together Dr Sean Weaver (Ekos founder) and Helen Hughes (CEO of Sanctuary Mountain Maungatautari, one of the largest mainland ecological restoration projects in Aotearoa). They’ll explain how biodiversity credits work, what good practice looks like, and how to tell the difference between genuine impact and greenwash.For businesses, it’s a chance to connect your brand and investments to projects that will still matter a century from now.Your climate wake-up callThe day ends with a panel that pulls no punches. Dr Cathrine Dyer, Dr Carly Green, Dr Sean Weaver, and Monique Kelly will lay out the current science, the political realities, and the risks already affecting businesses.This is the reset moment, the kōrero that makes clear why action can’t wait. The question is not whether climate change affects your business. The question is whether you’ll step up to prepare for it, to lead through it, and to help your community thrive to 2125 and beyond.Why does this matter for every businessBecause our future is on the line. The Southern Lakes economy relies on landscapes, climate, and people. Protecting them isn’t optional.Because customers expect it. The next generation of consumers and employees want to work with businesses that look past next year’s balance sheet.Because time is short. The choices we make in the next decade will shape whether our communities are resilient enough to reach 2125 in good health.Join the journeyBetter Business Day runs on Wednesday 29 October 2025 across Hāwea, Cardrona, and Wānaka. Tickets start at $15 per session, or you can grab a full-day Better Business Pass which includes four of the six sessions taking place on Wednesday.This isn’t about more meetings or paperwork. It’s about building the kind of businesses that can survive , and thrive, for the next 100 years.Our journey to 2125 starts now. Will your business be part of it? Book your Better Business Day pass at wao.co.nzWho is Wao Aotearoa? Wao Aotearoa is a collective movement for regeneration, accelerating systems change by connecting and activating people, groups, and organisations with the power to influence beyond themselves.Our work is grounded in Aotearoa and guided by te taiao, with a focus on building resilient communities, better businesses, thriving ecosystems, and low-emission futures. We act as the mycelium, linking ideas, resources, and people to catalyse transformative action at both local and national levels. Our flagship event is Wao Summit, an annual, week‑long festival of kōrero, tours, workshops, and community events across Wānaka and Queenstown. It’s designed to ignite systems change through multi-sector learning and collaboration to address climate change — reframing how we live, lead, and thrive toward 2125.

Hello, I’m Roger – a residential property sales consultant based right here in beautiful Wānaka. I’m excited to launch this regular column where I’ll be sharing thoughts on the local property market, lifestyle insights, and stories from the heart of our community.With over 20 years of experience in sales and marketing across New Zealand, Australia, the UK, and the USA, I’ve had the privilege of working in a wide range of markets. These experiences have shaped my approach to real estate: strategic, people-focused, and grounded in trust. For me, property isn’t just about transactions - it’s about helping people find their place in the world.Wānaka is one of those rare places where lifestyle and community come together in perfect harmony. Living in paradise is a privilege we share, but with that privilege comes a sense of responsibility. As locals, we’re not just residents - we’re guardians of the land, the culture, and the spirit of this place. It’s a region defined not only by its breath-taking beauty but also by the warmth, resilience, and care of its people. Together, we shape the future of Wānaka, and together, we protect what makes it so special.I’m proud to call Wānaka home and even prouder to contribute to its future. Outside of work, you’ll find me on the golf course, tennis court, or volunteering with Trap New Zealand - an organisation dedicated to protecting our native wildlife. Sustainability is close to my heart, and I believe it’s key to preserving the lifestyle we all love here.At Colliers, I have the support of a local network, bringing strategic insight, market knowledge, and a wide-reaching network to every client relationship. Whether you’re buying, selling, or simply curious about the market, I’m here to help with professionalism, integrity, and a genuine passion for this place we all call home.This blog is a space for sharing - not just property tips and market updates, but also reflections on what makes Wānaka special. I look forward to connecting with you, hearing your stories, and helping you navigate your property journey with confidence.Until next time,RogerTel: 027 222 2092email: [email protected] Helwick Street, Wānaka

Time again we hear clients say they have been meaning to get around to their estate planning, but it is not uncommon for people to go months or years without putting pen to paper and sorting their affairs out. When we talk about estate planning, we are referring to your Will, guardianship arrangements for your children, Enduring Powers of Attorney and a Memorandum of Wishes (if you have a Family Trust). Your WillA will ensures that your wishes prevail, even after you’ve gone. In the absence of a will the Administration Act takes effect; this is costly to your estate and the statutory administration of your estate may not result in the outcomes you would have intended had you drafted a will yourself. Your will ensures that a trusted executor of your choice is appointed to administer your estate and that your assets (property, savings, personal belonging etc) are distributed to the people you choose. You may also like to include special requests in your will such as a gift or donation in your name to your favourite sports club or charitable organisation.    Avoiding Family ConflictPassing away without a will can spark disputes among relatives over property or guardianship of children. A will clearly documents your intentions, reducing emotional and financial stress on grieving families. GuardianshipIn the event a child loses their parents together or in quick succession, who would have guardianship of that child? This is a major decision, and it is important that parents have this decision documented somewhere, such as in their Will. It is also important to talk this through with a trusted advisor like a lawyer who can ensure this decision is documented correctly and also discuss with the parents the difference between guardianship and day-to-day care arrangements. Safeguarding Decisions When You Can't Make ThemAn Enduring Power of Attorney (“EPOA”) lets you appoint trusted individuals to handle your personal care, welfare, finances, and property, if you lose capacity There are two types of EPOA, one for appointing an attorney to make decisions on your personal care and welfare and another to make decisions on your finances and property.   We recommend that you get both completed. It is important to remember that EPOAs operate from a time when a person loses capacity until they pass away, and after death your will takes effect. Any individual wanting to access aged care in NZ will require an EPOA, whether that is entering an independent apartment within a Retirement Village at 65 or if a person is entering fulltime care much later in life. Most, if not all, aged care providers will require a resident to have valid EPOA’s before coming to live at the Village. Clients are often pleased to hear that they have the option to appoint an individual as their attorney with specific instructions that their attorney provide information to or consult with other people, who are similarly important to the EPOA donor. For example, in the event one adult child is appointed as the attorney, a duty on that attorney to consult with and provide information to their siblings is an important feature if the EPOA donor would like to ensure all family members feel included in the process.   Family TrustIn the event you have an existing Family Trust or are thinking of setting one up, we recommend a Memorandum of Wishes, if you do not already have one or it is not an up to date expression of your wishes.  The Memorandum of Wishes is a guideline from yourself as the Settlor of the Trust to the Trustees who will be operating the Trust which sets out your objectives and purpose in setting up the Trust and your wishes as to how the Trustees administer the Trust usually including your view on how and in what proportions you would like to see some or all of the beneficiaries benefit from the assets of the Trust. A Memorandum of Wishes is not binding on the Trustees but it is useful guidance to the Trustees and evidence of the purpose for which the Trust was established. We can assist you to put this Memorandum together and we can similarly discuss with clients the option of having an annual Family Trust review, whereby we check in with you once a year to ensure all Trust records are up to date and whether any major life changes in the last year require us to update your estate planning documentation. Flexibility Through Life’s ChangesEstate planning should be organic and evolve as life changes. Key life changes that may require you to get in touch with us to review your estate matters include births, deaths, new relationships, the end of an existing relationship, a significant change in your property/asset pool or simply if your wishes for your estate have changed. Whether you have an existing will, Enduring Powers of Attorney and/or a Family Trust and would like us to assist you with an estate review or if you have not embarked on estate planning before and would like to take the first step of putting a Will in place; we at Checketts McKay Law are more than happy to meet with you in person or over the phone for an initial discussion and then work towards putting estate planning documentation in place that best reflects your wishes.7 Dunmore Street, Wānaka  

Opening Night of Wao Summit 2025At Wao, our vision is simple yet bold: an Aotearoa where communities flourish in balance with te taiao, living within a thriving, diverse, and regenerative ecosystem. We know that to get there, we can’t go it alone. That’s why our mission is to accelerate systems change by bringing people together and activating them to drive transformative action.The opening night of the Wao Summit on Tuesday October 28 is where this mission comes alive. Our Journey to 2125 is more than just a conversation - it’s the hero event that sets the tone for the week ahead. At Rippon Hall, surrounded by community, kai, and kōrero, we gather to ask the essential question: what does a thriving Aotearoa look like in 2125 - and how do we start shaping it now?Why Equity Matters for the FutureA regenerative future means nothing if it isn’t fair, inclusive, and just. This kōrero digs deep into:Intergenerational responsibility - leaving behind a liveable planet for those who come after us.Social and economic disparity - tackling the unequal impacts of climate change and the rising cost of living.Shared decision-making - shaping systems where no one is left behind.This is about more than ideas. It’s about creating blueprints for action that communities can adapt and scale - here in Wānaka and across Aotearoa.The opening night of the Wao Summit on October 28 is where this mission comes aliveThe Speakers Guiding the WayThis year’s panel brings together three voices who embody the courage, knowledge, and energy needed to shape what’s next:Sam Gibson (Sam the Trap Man) – Fresh from two sold-out 'Think Like a Forest' film nights, Sam’s raw honesty and deep connection to nature inspire followers worldwide.Professor Sara Walton – A leader in sustainable business at the University of Otago, Sara challenges us to reimagine how equity and regeneration must sit at the core of how we work, trade, and grow.Mawera Karetai – A powerful advocate for indigenous knowledge and community resilience, Mawera brings wisdom on inclusion, partnership, and building systems that honour both people and place.Together, they’ll explore how we activate systems change - not in theory, but in practice - and how we shape a future where everyone has the opportunity to thrive.Be Part of the MovementThis night is more than a kōrero. It’s about courage, connection, and momentum. Expect bold ideas, practical tools, and shared action that ripple into the rest of the summit - and beyond.Tuesday October 28, 5:30pm - 7:30pmRippon Hall, WānakaEnjoy Platters & local beveragesTickets sell out every year — secure yours now - Get your tickets hereJoin us as we open the Wao Summit 2025 and take the first step toward a fairer, regenerative Aotearoa.

Every year, someone asks: “But when’s Straight Pride?”It’s a question that misses the point of what Pride means, and why it still matters, especially in Wānaka, our growing rural district.Pride isn’t a competition. It’s a celebration. It’s about visibility for those questioning or struggling with their identity. It’s about creating safety and belonging for people who have historically been denied these basic needs. And it’s about showing our Rainbow community: we are here for you.Why Wānaka needs PridePride in Wānaka is more than a weekend of events. It’s about building a future where our Rainbow Rangatahi grow up knowing they are loved, safe, valued, and that they belong here.OUT&about Wānaka began Pride in response to local homophobia. Research backs the need: the 2019 Youth19 survey found around 18% of young people identify as rainbow or questioning. These are our kids, growing up in our community.Sadly, rainbow youth remain at higher risk. Around 60% report discrimination. Many experience bullying, exploitation online, or feel they must live “two lives” — one online where they find community, and one offline where they often feel invisible. And this is whyPride matters.What Pride stands forOUT&about Wānaka champions positivity, visibility, safety and belonging. We want our rainbow rangatahi to hear loud and clear: “You are seen. You are heard. You are not alone.”Pride also invites families, schools, workplaces, and community leaders to step up, to listen, to learn, and to create spaces where every young person feels safe to be themselves.How you can helpChange begins with conversation - open, caring, and without judgment. We can all make space: in classrooms, sports teams, workplaces, and around the dinner table. Being an ally doesn’t mean having all the answers. It simply means showing up, speaking up, and standing beside those who need support.So, why not Straight Pride?Because straight and cisgender people already live in a society that affirms them. They aren’t made to feel ashamed of who they love or who they are. Heterosexual youth don’t grow up hiding their identity out of fear of bullying or violence.Pride isn’t about taking anything away. It’s about adding love, colour, and understanding - for everyone.Author: Oliver Harcus (He/Him), Chairperson OUT&about Wānaka Charitable TrustOUT&about Wānaka – Get involved: Contact the OUT&about Wānaka team [email protected]

We often hold onto the hope that things will “go back to normal” once the worst of our child’s depression passes. But the truth is — they don’t. They can’t. And actually… that’s not necessarily a bad thing.Your young person is changed. You are changed. There is no rewinding the tape to before it all started. But in the same way that a profound experience — say, travelling the world or caring for someone you love — shapes a person, so too does living through mental illness.This chapter is about what happens after. It’s not neat or linear. But it is a place of progress, strength, and, with time, peace.They’ve Changed. You’ve Changed. That’s Okay.Depending on the depth and duration of your child’s experience with depression, it may have fundamentally shifted how they see the world and themselves. And let’s be honest — it may have done the same to you.You might still carry the trauma of witnessing their despair. You may even feel a twinge of jealousy when your friends talk about their kids navigating ordinary problems — the annoying flatmate, the part-time job drama, uni deadlines. You may mourn the version of teenage or young adult life your child didn’t get to have.But here’s what you get in return: resilience. Insight. Grit. Skills they learned the hard way — that most of their peers haven’t had to develop yet.When ‘Normal’ Expands, So Does BelongingIn the teenage years, everything is measured — test scores, social circles, university acceptances. It’s a sausage factory of standardisation. And if your child didn’t fit the mould, it may have felt like they were falling behind or left out.But here’s the beautiful truth: as their peers grow up, the shape of ‘normal’ starts to dissolve. Some leave uni, some never go. Some chase careers, others chase travel. Some fall in love, others feel lost. That uniformity fades. The bubble pops. And suddenly, your child — who once felt on the outside — is part of the wider, wobbly world again.What made their life feel small at 15 might be what makes them strong at 25.They’ve learned to anticipate stormy weather and prepare. They’ve learned self-care, mindfulness, and the importance of sleep, food, and connection. These aren’t just coping tools. They’re life tools. Superpowers, really.You’ve Learned TooParents often end up walking a parallel path — learning how to care for themselves, manage anxiety, maintain boundaries, and reconnect with their own lives again. Maybe for the first time in years.That journey isn’t always clean. In the thick of it, some parents understandably develop coping habits that aren’t so healthy — more wine at night, more arguments behind closed doors, more isolation, or even beginning to mirror the withdrawn or avoidant behaviours of their child. It’s human. It’s common. But it doesn’t need to be the end of the story.The good news? Just like your young person, you can choose something different. You can step toward healthier habits, seek connection, and reach out for support. Parent groups, therapy, peer spaces — they exist, and they help. Sometimes just hearing “me too” from another parent changes everything.And here’s the kicker: the advice we give to our struggling young people? It’s the same advice that makes us well. Eat good food. Move your body. Find meaningful connection. Seek support when needed. Take a breath before you react.What felt like a lonely path is suddenly full of others walking the same way. The umbrella of “normal” has widened — and you’re under it too.This Isn’t About Blame – But Let’s Be HonestI’m not here to demonise the systems that measure our young people — schools, universities, sports teams. But once you’re outside of them, they start to look a bit… strange.Imagine sitting at a bar with friends and being told who “won” their Christmas holidays or who had the most “successful” friendship group. Ridiculous, right?That’s the world our kids are often raised in. And when you step out of it, you realise: adulthood isn’t about gold stars. It’s about living in a way that feels meaningful to you.So whether your young person is starting a course, going to therapy, travelling, working, or just taking life one day at a time — they are collecting their version of gold stars. And so are you.The Transition: From Caregiver to WitnessHere’s the hardest bit: moving on.Even if your child still struggles — you need to shift how you respond. If you stay locked into the fear you felt during the worst of their depression, you risk reacting to who they were, not who they are now.You might panic and think, “Oh no, we’re back here again.” But maybe it’s just a dip, not a return. Maybe they bounce back faster. Maybe they use tools you didn’t even notice they picked up. But if you only focus on the fear, you’ll miss the growth.Instead, celebrate the bounce. Notice their self-care. Let social connection look different (even if it’s online). Gently let go. Yes — that’s terrifying. But shielding them forever means they never get to test their wings. And what’s life without that?The Final MessageYour child is now the adult and all adults are still kids in disguise, figuring things out.Here’s what matters now:
• Shoulder your baggage with kindness.
• Soothe your busy mind with movement or stillness.
• Eat to fuel, not punish.
• Reach out when you’re not okay.
• Ignore the highlights reel of social media.And most importantly — give yourself some bloody gold stars. For the small things. For the big ones. For not giving up.Let your young person see you live. That, more than anything, shows them the path forward.There’s no more official grading system. You get to decide what success looks like now.You’ve walked through the fire with your child. You’ve grown. So have they. Now… take a breath, step forward, and start living the life you both deserve.Let the new chapter begin.This post is the third in our journey. Read the first blog here. The second chapter explores what recovery starts to look like, how the fog begins to lift, and what it means to slowly trust again. Read the second blog here.

Path Wānaka exists to help parents and whānau support our young people as they face adult-sized challenges and change.And right now, the biggest of those challenges is happening in the palms of their hands.Let’s face it, what our kids are facing online is beyond anything we have ever imagined. It’s horrifying. It’s terrifying. It’s huge. It feels out of control. And yes, at times, it’s overwhelming.That’s why we are again hosting Rob Cope, writer, filmmaker, and presenter of Our Kids Online, for a Cyber Safety event that every parent of teens and pre-teens in our community MUST attend.This isn’t an optional “parenting info evening.”This is the talk you cannot afford to miss if you are invested in keeping your child safe online.The Hard Truth : Our Local RealityIn 2023, the Upper Clutha Youth Voice Survey asked our young people about their online experiences. The results are confronting:89% of Upper Clutha teens have been exposed to worrying or nasty content online.… That’s not a global stat. That’s our kids. Right here.3 in 5 young people say social media is harming their mental health.Half of students said they had not shared information or images they later regretted. And the other half?Social media is among the top four biggest problems our young people say they are facing today.“It’s getting darker and darker. What our kids face online is getting worse, not better.”– Rob Cope“Predators are now asking victims to self-harm, cut themselves, video it, and send it to them.”– Rob CopeWhat’s Really Happening to Our Kids?This isn’t scare-mongering. These are the realities New Zealand children are facing right now:Sexting is normalised by Year 8.Teen boys are regularly watching violent porn.Gaming addiction is costing teens their sleep, focus, mental health, and real-life connection with friends and family.Predators make first contact through apps that our teens are accessing - Snapchat, Instagram DMs, and gaming chats to name a few.Our tamariki are being exposed to unsolicited nudes, or feeling pressured to send them.Many don’t tell parents for fear of losing their phone or getting into trouble.“It has nothing to do with good kid, bad kid, good family, bad family. One day another kid shows something to your child, and now they’re in it.” – Rob CopeThe Images They Can’t UnseeViolent beheadings. Animal cruelty. Live-streamed suicides. Porn they never should have to be exposed to. Shocked? You should be!!“My own daughter watched the Christchurch massacre in its entirety on a friend’s phone. Most of the kids at her school saw it that day.” – Rob CopeCounsellors are hearing from 11 and 12-year-olds asking:“Am I a bad person because I can’t stop thinking about it?”This is trauma, and it’s happening to children years before they are emotionally mature to process it.Why You Need to Hear Rob CopeRob Cope is a parent, filmmaker, and the co-founder of Our Kids Online. He’s spent seven years travelling New Zealand, uncovering the uncomfortable truths about what’s happening to our young people online, and how to fight back.This event is not a lecture. It’s a reality check and a toolkit for action. You’ll leave shocked, but more importantly equipped with the knowledge and tools to protect your tamariki and whānau.Event Details6:30–8:30pm, Thursday 11 SeptemberLake Wānaka CentreGet Your Tickets HereFinal WordIf you think this doesn’t apply to your child, that’s exactly why you should come.Show up for your teen, for their safety, their wellbeing, and their future.“When I protected my kids online, I also protected yours… please protect your kids so you’re also protecting mine.” Rob Cope.Listen to The Platform host Leah Panapa speak to Rob Cope earlier this month on why online harm is only getting worse.

Dismissals are never easy—for either party. But under New Zealand law, there’s one scenario where employers can lawfully end a new employment relationship without the risk of a personal grievance for unjustified dismissal: the 90-day trial period.As of 23 December 2023, any New Zealand employer—regardless of size—can include a 90-day trial clause in their employment agreements. If this clause is valid and correctly applied, employers may dismiss an employee within the first 90 calendar days without having to justify the decision or worry about a personal grievance for unjustified dismissal.But there’s a catch: one legal misstep and the protection disappears.What Is the 90-Day Trial Period?The 90-day trial period is designed to give employers a chance to assess a new hire’s fit without full commitment. It’s particularly helpful where interviews alone don’t paint the full picture—especially in industries or regions where every hire carries financial or operational weight.Employers can dismiss during the trial period without giving reasons, but the clause must comply with very specific legal conditions. It's not a "free pass"—it's a tool with limits.When Is a Trial Period Clause Legally Valid?To rely on a trial clause, employers must get the process right from the beginning. The key legal requirements are:The clause must be in writing, in the employment agreement.The agreement must be signed by the employee before any work begins. Even a few minutes of unpaid work before signing will invalidate the clause.The employee must be genuinely new to the business. Prior casual work or previous employment with the same employer disqualifies them.The clause must state that the trial period is for up to 90 days, and clearly explain that dismissal during that period may occur without the ability to bring a personal grievance for unjustified dismissal.The employee must be given a reasonable opportunity to review the agreement and encouraged to seek independent advice.Failure to meet any of these conditions means the clause cannot be relied upon, and a dismissed employee may lodge a grievance for unjustified dismissal.Why Is This Clause Allowed? What’s the Purpose?The trial period is intended to reduce the risk of hiring mistakes, especially for small or regional businesses where a poor hire could have outsized consequences.For example, a local business in Cromwell might need to hire quickly, but won’t know until the employee starts whether they’re a good fit. The trial period offers flexibility and encourages more open hiring, even of those without conventional experience or credentials.However, trial periods aren’t without criticism. Some worry they can be used to exploit workers or sidestep fair process. That’s why the law imposes strict rules and insists that employers still act in good faith—even if they don’t have to justify a dismissal.How Does Dismissal Work During a Trial Period?While no justification is required, employers must still give notice of dismissal, and that notice must be:Given within the 90-day period (not on day 91 or later); andIn line with the employment agreement, or, if unspecified, “reasonable” (usually one to two weeks).Even though there’s no legal obligation to explain why the employee is being dismissed, employers must still act respectfully and fairly, consistent with their duty of good faith.Are Dismissals Under the Trial Period Legally Binding?Yes—provided the clause is valid and the dismissal process meets legal standards. When the requirements are met, the dismissal cannot be challenged as unjustified.But any slip-up—like failing to provide proper notice or signing the agreement after work begins—invalidates the clause. In that case, the employee gains full protection and can bring a personal grievance. What Rights Do Employees Still Have?The 90-day trial period only blocks grievances for unjustified dismissal. Employees still retain the right to bring personal grievances on other grounds, including:Discrimination (e.g. race, gender, disability, pregnancy)Sexual or racial harassmentUnjustified disadvantage (e.g. bullying or systemic mistreatment)Union-related retaliation or pressureBreach of contract, such as failure to give proper notice or access to a support person during meetingsTwo notable cases demonstrate this:In McClelland v Schindler Lifts NZ, an employee with a hand tremor was dismissed during the trial period. The court ruled the dismissal discriminatory, and therefore unlawful.In Farrelly v Advance Office Products, a worker dismissed due to a stutter was similarly found to have been treated unlawfully.In both cases, the trial clause did not shield the employer from liability.What Happens If the Trial Clause Is Invalid?If a trial clause is found to be invalid, any dismissal under it is treated like a regular termination. The employee may then bring a personal grievance for unjustified dismissal.Common reasons a clause might fail include:The agreement was signed after work began.The trial period was not clearly stated or explained.The employee had previously worked for the employer.Proper notice of dismissal was not given.In these cases, an employee may be entitled to reinstatement or financial compensation.Final Thoughts: What Employers and Employees Need to KnowThe 90-day trial period is a powerful tool when used correctly—but it must be applied with care.Employers should ensure that their contracts are watertight and their processes meticulous. Good faith remains essential, and one administrative slip can open the door to legal exposure.Employees, even during a trial period, still have significant rights. If you suspect you’ve been dismissed unfairly or unlawfully, it’s worth seeking legal advice.At Checketts McKay Law, we regularly help businesses and individuals across Central Otago understand and navigate the 90-day trial period. Whether you're onboarding new staff, reviewing your employment agreements, or facing an unexpected dismissal—we're here to help.FAQs: 90-Day Trial Period ExplainedCan I be dismissed without reason during the trial period?Yes—but only if the clause is valid and all legal steps have been followed.Does my employer need to explain the dismissal?No, but they must give proper notice and act in good faith.What if I signed the contract after starting work?The clause is automatically invalid, and you’re protected under normal employment law.Can I be dismissed for being pregnant or having a disability?No. That would breach the Human Rights Act, and you may have grounds for a grievance.Is a trial period suitable for all jobs?Not necessarily. For high-skill or fixed-term roles, other arrangements may be more appropriate.Checketts McKay Law – Works for You.Proudly serving Cromwell, Alexandra, Ranfurly, Wanaka, and beyond. Whether you're drafting an employment agreement or challenging a dismissal, we’re ready to help you unpack the problem and adapt the solution.Draft by Karleigh Hoera and Emma Tompkins, Checketts McKay Law.7 Dunmore Street, Wānaka 

Parenting teens doesn’t have to feel like survival mode. Your relationship with your teen is too important to leave to chance.What Does a 'Good Parent' Prioritise Every Day?(Hint: It’s not perfection.)Myth: Good parents always know what to do and never need help.In the chaos of modern parenting, work pressures, school demands, and endless notifications, it’s easy to feel like you’re never quite doing enough. But here’s a gentle reminder: your teen doesn’t need a perfect parent. They just need a present one.Instead of chasing perfect parenting, try shifting focus to what really matters:PRESENCE over perfectionLISTENING over lecturingCONNECTION over correctionGROWTH over gradesA Simple Daily Check-InIf you’re not sure where to start, ask yourself this:How much deep attention do I give to building a positive connection with my teen each day?These quick, low-effort ideas can have a big impact over time:10 minutes of undivided attention every dayOne genuine compliment about their characterAsk: “What was the best part of your day? Why?”Share something new you learned recentlyThese simple, ‘daily’ consistent moments help build trust, respect, and openness that teens respond to.You Don’t Have to Do It AloneThe Path Wānaka Parent Whānau Group Coaching Programme is designed for parents who want practical tools, not just theory, and a safe, confidential space to explore challenges, feel heard, and learn strategies that actually work.Whether you’re navigating:- Communication breakdowns- Behavioural challenges- Big emotions (theirs or yours)- Feeling unsupported or overwhelmed or just stuck …… you’re not alone. And you’re not failing. Term 4 Group DetailsWe’re back for Term 4 starting on Thursday 6th November with a mix of in-person and online sessions, designed to work with your busy schedules.Join other local parents creating positive change in their families through confidential small group parent coaching.What you’ll get from the group:Real tools that work for real teensSupport from other local parents facing similar strugglesStrategies to rebuild connection and trustConfidence in your parenting and decision-makingOr if a group isn’t your thing, private 1:1 sessions (45-60 minutes) with Ali are also available.One Last ThingYou’ve got this.But you don’t have to do it on your own.Every parent in our coaching programme has started exactly where you are now – unsure, tired, and trying their best. Choose to invest in the most important relationship of all. Your teen needs you to be the parent who:Shows upStays curiousKeeps growingWant to learn more?Learn more here or contact us [email protected] with any further queries.Truth: ‘Good parents ask for help when they need it’. (Real parenting isn’t about perfection — it’s about showing up, learning as you go, and modelling that it’s OK to seek support. That’s not weakness — that’s wisdom).Author: Ali McCormick Discretionary Efforts (discretionaryefforts.com)Parent | Whānau Group CoachAbout Ali McCormick. Ali is a highly Skilled and engaging teacher; she makes complex concepts easy to grasp and apply, instilling confidence in all learners. Her style is clear, positive and inclusive. Ali's powerful coaching skills ensure everyone walks away with an actionable, personalised plan.

Party Guide: Ensuring a Safe & Memorable NightThis guide offers advice for large events like after-ball parties, while also providing tips applicable to small gatherings.Key principles:Safety and enjoyment are paramount.Alcohol concerns? Consider an alcohol-free event to keep things simple and safe. For people under 18, the safest option is not drinking at all and delaying drinking for as long as possible.Legalities: If alcohol is involved, remember it’s a serious offence to supply to anyone under 18 unless specific conditions are met (parental consent, responsible supply).Planning & Organisation:Team effort: Work closely with parents, guardians, and students. A collaborative approach ensures a well-organised event.Police Partnership: Inform local police early and be open to their visitation for everyone’s peace of mind.Security Measures: Have appropriate adults acting as security on entry and exit throughout the duration of the event.Entertainment: Hiring a DJ can create a relaxed and enjoyable atmosphere, fostering opportunities for interaction and engagement among peers.Consideration: Be considerate of neighbours, noise and parking may impact them so giving them a heads up beforehand goes a long way.Venue Selection:Keep it Secret: Reveal the venue last minute to maintain exclusivity and control.Facility Check: Ensure ample kitchen and toilet facilities, exits and space.Invitations & Attendance:Exclusive Entry: Recommended that only ball attendees or invitees can join. Secure entry with wrist bands or stamps. No door sales - pre-sold tickets only.Gate: Limited time to enter e.g. 30 minutes only.Watchful Eyes: Parents and guardians present to monitor and assist.Alcohol Policy:Delivery & Distribution: Parents deliver alcohol prior to the event. Distribute responsibly via a controlled, adult-supervised bar.Underage Drinking: If allowed (parental consent, responsible supply), ensure a responsible approach: supervised consumption, no glass, food availability, and safe transport.Transport:Safe Rides: Arrange transportation to and from the event, ensuring no one drives under the influence.At the Event:Food & Hydration: Abundant food, water and non-alcoholic drinks. Consider BBQ, sandwiches, and savouries. Circulate all evening.First Aid: Have a kit and a designated adult for minor emergencies.Sober Monitor: Encourage groups to designate a sober friend for the night.Quiet Zone: Offer a safe and quiet space for those needing a break.In Case of Trouble:Immediate Action: Parents called for any issues with intoxication, illegal drugs/contraband, or disruptive behaviour.Communication: Have operational mobile phones on hand for emergencies.Community Support: Contact details for local police and health services should be readily available.Venue Address: Know the address of the event venue in case you need to call emergency services. Some rural locations do not have specific street addresses.Remember: Every celebration is a milestone. Let’s make it memorable for all the right reasons – fun, safe, and inclusive for everyone.Author Jamie Seymour (she/her) Health Promotion Advisor | Kaiwhakatairanga HauoraNational Public Health Service – SouthernPath Wānaka - more information on our websiteContact us: [email protected] our mailing list:Want to learn more and keep updated on Path’s events and programmes sign up for our (no-spam) latest newsletter here

Separation can be one of the most challenging periods in life, emotionally, practically, and legally. Whether you are married, in a civil union, or in a de facto relationship, there are important steps to take to protect your rights, your wellbeing, and your family’s future. This guide outlines the key steps involved in separation, including how to sort out property, care of children, and when to involve professionals like lawyers or the Family Court. Understanding SeparationSeparation occurs when you and your partner decide to end your relationship and start living apart. You do not need to apply to the court or sign any formal paperwork to legally separate. However, there are legal and practical steps that follow, especially concerning property, parenting, and finances. Immediate Practical StepsDecide on Living Arrangements: Agree who will stay in the family home (if possible) and how to manage living separately.Sort Out Finances: Discuss how to manage bills, debts, and bank accounts. Notify your bank of the separation to protect shared funds.Think About Children: Begin discussing care arrangements, contact, and schooling for your children.Sorting Out Relationship PropertyUnder the Property (Relationships) Act 1976, relationship property (generally everything acquired during the relationship) is to be divided equally unless exceptional circumstances apply.To formalise any property division, you must enter into a Separation Agreement and you need to do this with a lawyer. Why You Need a LawyerA property agreement under section 21A of the Property (Relationships) Act is only valid if:It is in writing,Each party has independent legal advice, andThe agreement is signed by both parties and certified by their respective lawyers.This ensures that both parties understand their rights and that the agreement is fair and enforceable. Parenting and the Family CourtIf you and your partner cannot agree on arrangements for the care of children, you may need to apply to the Family Court. Consider Mediation or Family Dispute ResolutionCouples may benefit from mediation or Family Dispute Resolution (FDR). These are services designed to help you, and your partner agree on parenting and sometimes property issues in a neutral and supported environment.Family Dispute Resolution (FDR) is required before most parenting matters can be taken to court (unless exemptions apply, such as family violence).Mediation is usually faster, cheaper, and less stressful than litigation The process involves:Attending FDR (unless exempt),Filing an application for a Parenting Order or Consent Order (if agreement is reached but needs court confirmation),Possibly undergoing a parenting course,Attending a court hearing if agreement still cannot be reached.The court's focus is always the best interests of the child, not the rights of the parents. Spousal MaintenanceIf one partner is unable to financially support themselves post-separation, they may be entitled to spousal maintenance. This can be negotiated or applied for through the Family Court if necessary. Divorce (Dissolution of Marriage or Civil Union)To legally divorce, you must have been separated for at least two years and one party must apply to the Family Court for a Dissolution Order.You can apply on your own or jointly.There is a court filing fee.You do not need to divide property first to apply for divorce—but ideally, you should have sorted it before or soon after.When to Engage a LawyerIt is strongly recommended to see a family lawyer when:You are dividing property.You’re considering a formal Separation Agreement.There is a power imbalance or family violence.You need advice about children or court processes.Many lawyers offer initial free consultations, and Legal Aid may be available depending on your income and the nature of your dispute. Here at Checketts McKay Law, we have three Lead Family Legal Aid providers, who are ready and able to assist. Other ConsiderationsUpdate your Will and Enduring Powers of Attorney.Notify Work and Income or Inland Revenue (IRD) if your relationship status changes.Consider counselling for you or your children.ConclusionSeparation is a personal and complex journey, but you don’t need to go through it alone. By understanding the steps involved, accessing the right support services, and getting sound legal advice when needed, you can navigate this transition with more clarity and confidence. If in doubt, start by contacting:A family lawyer, we have several experiences Family Lawyers at Checketts McKay Law who are here to help,A Community Law Centre,The Family Court,Or a mediation service.The earlier you seek advice, the more empowered you’ll be to make informed decisions for yourself and your family. 17 Dunmore Street, Wānaka 

We all know what it’s like when a teen is stuck in a mood – and let’s be honest, we get stuck too.Teenage emotions can feel intense and unpredictable. That’s because the teenage brain is wired to feel higher highs and lower lows. They’re not being dramatic – their emotional volume really is turned up. And when you add hormones, social stress, and sleep deprivation? It’s a lot.But emotions don’t need to control us. They come… and they go.It can help to think of emotions like clouds passing through the sky. Some are dark and heavy. Some hang around longer than others. But none of them last forever.Here are three practical tools to help shift your teen’s emotional state (or your own):1. Shift with timeAsk: How will I feel about this in 5 hours, 5 days, or 5 weeks?This “5 in 5” technique helps zoom out to give us perspective, and reminds us: this feeling won’t last forever.2. Shift with your sensesDo what works for you – listen to music, move to a different room, take a walk, hang out with your pet, or look up at the sky. Small sensory shifts help redirect attention and loosen the grip of a difficult emotion.3. Name it to tame itPutting feelings into words dials down the intensity of the emotion. Try: “I’m noticing I feel frustrated” instead of “I’m frustrated”. This subtle shift helps create distance and reminds us: we are not our emotions – they’re just passing visitors.Try asking your teen, “What are you feeling?” Then gently encourage them to get specific – beyond “sad”, “mad” or “bad”. The more specific we are, the easier it is to figure out what we need.For more, check out the free How We Feel app – it’s full of great tools to help name and manage emotions.Kim Tay is the founder of The Wellbeing Works and runs science-based workshops that build mental skills for wellbeing and high performance – at home, at school, and at work. For more bite-sized, no-fluff insights, sign up for her (very occasional, no-spam) newsletter here.Read Kim’s first post here.Path Wānaka - more information on our website.Contact us: [email protected] our mailing list:Want to learn more and keep updated on Path’s events and programmes sign up for our (no-spam) newsletter here.