Bridget Liggins - Checketts McKay Law
25 July 2025, 8:00 PM
Separation can be one of the most challenging periods in life, emotionally, practically, and legally. Whether you are married, in a civil union, or in a de facto relationship, there are important steps to take to protect your rights, your wellbeing, and your family’s future.
This guide outlines the key steps involved in separation, including how to sort out property, care of children, and when to involve professionals like lawyers or the Family Court.
Understanding Separation
Separation occurs when you and your partner decide to end your relationship and start living apart. You do not need to apply to the court or sign any formal paperwork to legally separate. However, there are legal and practical steps that follow, especially concerning property, parenting, and finances.
Immediate Practical Steps
Sorting Out Relationship Property
Under the Property (Relationships) Act 1976, relationship property (generally everything acquired during the relationship) is to be divided equally unless exceptional circumstances apply.
To formalise any property division, you must enter into a Separation Agreement and you need to do this with a lawyer.
Why You Need a Lawyer
A property agreement under section 21A of the Property (Relationships) Act is only valid if:
This ensures that both parties understand their rights and that the agreement is fair and enforceable.
Parenting and the Family Court
If you and your partner cannot agree on arrangements for the care of children, you may need to apply to the Family Court.
Consider Mediation or Family Dispute Resolution
Couples may benefit from mediation or Family Dispute Resolution (FDR). These are services designed to help you, and your partner agree on parenting and sometimes property issues in a neutral and supported environment.
The process involves:
The court's focus is always the best interests of the child, not the rights of the parents.
Spousal Maintenance
If one partner is unable to financially support themselves post-separation, they may be entitled to spousal maintenance. This can be negotiated or applied for through the Family Court if necessary.
Divorce (Dissolution of Marriage or Civil Union)
To legally divorce, you must have been separated for at least two years and one party must apply to the Family Court for a Dissolution Order.
When to Engage a Lawyer
Many lawyers offer initial free consultations, and Legal Aid may be available depending on your income and the nature of your dispute. Here at Checketts McKay Law, we have three Lead Family Legal Aid providers, who are ready and able to assist.
Other Considerations
Conclusion
Separation is a personal and complex journey, but you don’t need to go through it alone. By understanding the steps involved, accessing the right support services, and getting sound legal advice when needed, you can navigate this transition with more clarity and confidence.
If in doubt, start by contacting:
The earlier you seek advice, the more empowered you’ll be to make informed decisions for yourself and your family.
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